Tagging onto my last post and continuing the thought of what kind of Mom am I/do I want to be. Let's be honest. To be the mom I want to be would take a lot of time and effort and some change on my part. The question is, am I willing to do the work? I want to be a Gentle Parent!
To quote a favorite blogger, "I don't want my kids to remember how I screamed at them. I want them to think of me as rational, calm and peaceful but also serious and to the point." (http://www.ourlovelymess.com) This is part of the premise to "Gentle Parenting". I read several of the post on Gentle Parenting, and I don't agree with many of the ideas, however I love the idea of gentle.
This is how I remember my mom. My own mother was very consistent and quiet. I don't remember her ever yelling at me or heaven forbid, scream at me. Yes, she did spank, but I only remember a few times and they were quite effective. I wouldn't have dreamed of talking back to my mother, yelling at her or arguing with her. My dad on the other hand....well...yelling, arguing and fighting were a regular occurrence.
I would say I am very consistent. However, and I am sure all would agree with me, gentle is not a description anyone would use to describe me or my parenting techniques. Really! So why aren't I this gentle, consistent mother, who's children obey her every word? Well I would say the honest truth is I lack some discipline in my life. I'm not consistent with my devotionals, my laundry or my hanging up of clothing... Oh wait, lets not use this as a confessional, this would be the longest blog post in the history of blogging! Suffice it to say, disciplines are difficult for me.
My mom was a very disciplined person for most of my childhood. About the only thing I have seen my mom read is devotionals and her bible and she reads consistently. Her house was always clean, laundry done up regularly, and she worked full time until I was eleven years old. As I write this I am beginning to see a pattern. Discipline and organization can birth calm and peace and perhaps a gentle spirit?
I think I will sit and think on these things. Actually I think I will jump up and organize this house while I meditate on this. Maybe I will do homework too and perhaps I'll clean out some drawers and fold laundry....I'm so not feeling calm or peaceful thinking about this.
I'll keep y'all posted on the organized, disciplined mom. Are we peaceful and calm?
To quote a favorite blogger, "I don't want my kids to remember how I screamed at them. I want them to think of me as rational, calm and peaceful but also serious and to the point." (http://www.ourlovelymess.com) This is part of the premise to "Gentle Parenting". I read several of the post on Gentle Parenting, and I don't agree with many of the ideas, however I love the idea of gentle.
This is how I remember my mom. My own mother was very consistent and quiet. I don't remember her ever yelling at me or heaven forbid, scream at me. Yes, she did spank, but I only remember a few times and they were quite effective. I wouldn't have dreamed of talking back to my mother, yelling at her or arguing with her. My dad on the other hand....well...yelling, arguing and fighting were a regular occurrence.
I would say I am very consistent. However, and I am sure all would agree with me, gentle is not a description anyone would use to describe me or my parenting techniques. Really! So why aren't I this gentle, consistent mother, who's children obey her every word? Well I would say the honest truth is I lack some discipline in my life. I'm not consistent with my devotionals, my laundry or my hanging up of clothing... Oh wait, lets not use this as a confessional, this would be the longest blog post in the history of blogging! Suffice it to say, disciplines are difficult for me.
My mom was a very disciplined person for most of my childhood. About the only thing I have seen my mom read is devotionals and her bible and she reads consistently. Her house was always clean, laundry done up regularly, and she worked full time until I was eleven years old. As I write this I am beginning to see a pattern. Discipline and organization can birth calm and peace and perhaps a gentle spirit?
I think I will sit and think on these things. Actually I think I will jump up and organize this house while I meditate on this. Maybe I will do homework too and perhaps I'll clean out some drawers and fold laundry....I'm so not feeling calm or peaceful thinking about this.
I'll keep y'all posted on the organized, disciplined mom. Are we peaceful and calm?
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